It’s okay to trust yourself. You don’t need confirmation from others. It’s fine to make your own decisions and to trust your own judgement. And it’s okay to fail. How else will you ever grow? Go ahead and be true to yourself. I give you permission.
An inner-dialogue that played out this morning over a cup of coffee. It was early. The house was quiet and I started writing.
Life is pressure. It is stress and strife. It is full of decisions.
As soon as you entered this world you were ushered into pain and hunger, into light and life. You were given parents who loved you and family to guide you. You grew up and became you. A young confident productive and talented person. But somewhere along the way, somehow and at sometime you stumbled and a kernel of uncertainty started to develop deep inside. The kernel found purchase in your doubts and your fears gave it heat until one day it ‘popped.’
One day it popped and your life changed. Your youthful exuberance and ignorant confidence disappeared. And you felt shaky, like you lost your balance. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you started questioning…
Congratulations, you finally grew up. You took an uncomfortable step towards true confidence, stronger and less affected by kernels of doubt and the opinions of others.
If
If you trust yourself. If you have faith in the process and stay disciplined in your actions.
To get there is a process and it will take as long as it will take. Use questions. Answering them will help you find out who you are and what you want. Questions are an avenue which leads to learning about yourself, if you are honest. If you ask yourself instead of asking the world.
What socks should I wear today? What career should I pursue? How do I think about politics and how do I feel about all of these questions?
Don’t ask Google, ask yourself.
What about what everyone else thinks?
What is everyone else doing? What an exhausting life you live if you give power to others over the choices you make. When do you allow yourself time to think and breath and live for you?
It’s okay to agree with people and to find inspiration from others, but in the end it is imperative to think for yourself, ask your own questions, and develop your own opinions.
But what will everyone think if i think? That’s a valid albeit humorous question. The answer is, what you think is ultimately more important. Ask yourself, what do I think about this? How do I feel about that? For think and feel are words which form two very different questions.
It’s okay to learn from the mistakes of others. It’s not okay to blindly follow the unfounded biases of others. But, I digress.
Try and be true to yourself. Take a chance and trust yourself. I give you permission.
Know yourself!
Thanks for reading!
